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[Music] how to fall in love with reality or life i see far too many people disillusioned with reality or life even amongst supposed spiritual people uh i see people doing spirituality getting involved with psychedelics or meditation or whatever going on the spiritual path and they just actually rather than gaining a zest for life they lose the zest for life and this episode is about getting you to reconnect with the magic of life again see zest in life is not optional this is not just a luxury this is essential for living a good life and these days there's so much depression nihilism cynicism inaction going around so much feeling sorry for yourself so much complaining and whining and trolling and you have to discipline yourself to cut through all of this [ __ ] this is human [ __ ] you have to understand this is not how you create a great life for yourself and if you're not increasing your zest for life as you're doing this work and by this work i mean self-help personal development spirituality whatever you want to call it whatever you're doing if it's not increasing your zest for life then you have to change you're doing it wrong it's a bit tricky and counter-intuitive because we get on this self-development treadmill of trying to improve ourselves whether you're improving your financial situation or your relationships or your self-esteem or whatever your ability to meditate you're trying to improve that but you get so caught up in getting into this self-development rat race that it actually robs you of the zest for life that you had when you were younger when you weren't consciously thinking about all this stuff and there's a certain pressure that personal development puts upon you and spiritual development a lot of pressure is put upon you to you know to act in a saintly way to be loving towards people to not get angry to not be sad to not have suffering all this sorts of stuff right um and then especially as you're you know the first let's say five years of of this work that you're going to do maybe even 10 years of this work it's going to place a burden on you that normal people normies as we call them that normies don't have people who are not doing spiritual development who are not doing personal development who are not trying to actualize their full potential in life in a sense they have a much easier life and in a certain sense there's a sort of a naive ignorance and almost zest for life that can just come from living life mindlessly well you're robbing yourself of that if you're on this journey with me towards self-actualization right but um look uh if you could just immediately start improving your life everybody would be into personal development and spirituality yes there's going to be an initial upfront cost a sort of a hump you have to go through before most of the payoffs come it's a long-term investment that you're making in yourself but also what can happen is you can start to do personal development and spirituality in such a way where you get like the wrong idea of what personal development is about or what spirituality is about and you turn into such a grind that it becomes its own source of depression nihilism cynicism inaction feeling sorry for yourself complaining about life this kind of stuff and i want you to recognize that when whenever this happens to you whether it's going to happen to you now or it's going to happen to you in 10 years you have to catch yourself and realize ah this doesn't feel right and the reason it doesn't feel right something's like something's not quite aligning in the way that i'm pursuing personal development or spirituality yeah it's because you got some bad ideas you have fantasies about how to do personal development spirituality and you have to adjust those right your initial ways of doing personal development and spirituality are going to be rather naive and misguided and maybe even 180 degrees the opposite of the way you will be ultimately doing it to get that kind of zest from life that you want that's ultimately what this is about if this work is not improving your life why are you doing it but you see there's some tricks here because you have to kind of upgrade your entire approach towards life because if you enter personal development and spirituality with this attitude of like well so this is going to be as fun as playing video games right or it's going to be as fun as watching netflix all day or this is going to be as fun as smoking weed with my friends and doing nothing or pigging out on junk food it's going to be as great right except i'm going to be improving my life too no it's going to be a different kind of satisfaction fulfillment that you get from doing personal development and spirituality and you have to retrain your mental palate so to speak you have to retrain it in a more mature sophisticated manner to be able to appreciate what personal development and spirituality will do for you in your life because if all you're chasing after his dopamine hits and raw pleasure personal development and spirituality is not going to give you too much of that you're going to be disappointed but that's actually okay because what you'll realize as part of this personal development and spiritual growth process is that these dopamine hits that you've been addicted to your whole life and that you have called happiness that this is not what true happiness is really about and it's not really what you want out of life this is not how you create a great life so this fantasy you have of the great life being a constant never-ending dopamine you know treadmill of ever greater spikes of dopamine this this this itself is a fantasy you have to drop and you're going to be very glad that you outgrow that fantasy because that fantasy itself is what's keeping you stuck and it's going to create the depression the niles and the cynicism the disillusionment with life feeling sorry for yourself complaining right because that's an unsustainable strategy it's not going to really work so here's what will work here's what mature living really is like and this is really what you want to do in your life if you're young if you're like in your teens or your early 20s uh what you want to do is you want to transition yourself away from the paradigm of living life the way that most of your friends and people you know or what is shown to you in social media and in advertisements all that approach to happiness and to living to this totally new paradigm of living and i'm going to give you a couple of like core pillars here that you can use for the rest of your life right and the quicker you can get to this mature way of living this mature attitude uh the more fulfillment you'll get out of life and the more success you'll have in life and the more you will love life and the longer you wait the more disillusioned you will become with life okay so here's the first pillar the first pillar for how to fall in love with life or reality is falling in love with consciousness itself this is the ultimate pillar so i'm just gonna lead with this falling in love with consciousness itself what is consciousness consciousness is everything it's everything you see around you it's this the colors the sounds the sensations it's your entire field of experience it's everything you can interact with in life it is life itself right so if you're gonna fall in love with life or with reality but you're not falling in love with consciousness then how is that ever going to work because life and reality are consciousness so first it's going to help for you to realize that life and reality are conscious that's something you have to awaken to you know have some awakenings in the nature of consciousness i've talked about that elsewhere but but really look this is a practice this is a practice that you cultivate it's a mature attitude towards life where like you can just sit there and look at your hand recognizing it as consciousness a figment of consciousness see my episode called everything is states of consciousness states of consciousness is everything that's what i titled it but like the ability like one of the greatest things that i've gotten from all of my personal development and spiritual work is that i can sit here and just observe consciousness whatever i'm looking at my hand or even a computer like i could be looking at a laptop and just appreciate that my laptop is made out of consciousness and just sit there and marvel at that fact or i can marvel at the fact that my hand is mad at consciousness i can appreciate the beauty and magic of consciousness and this sort of appreciation you know it gets overlooked as we're going about our daily tasks but if you're overlooking the the magic of consciousness in a sense you're overlooking the magic of life this is one of the reasons you've lost the zest for life you're disillusioned with life because you're disconnected with spirit this is spirit spirit is is not some sort of thing you find in some sort of other dimension spirit is here you have to recontextualize mundane life as spirit and appreciate it as such and this gives you a subtle joy and fulfillment that you won't get in any other way you can't get it from any kind of pleasure hi now i'm going to keep talking about how to fall in love with consciousness here in a moment but let's also introduce the other pillars that are going to be a little more down to earth for you guys the other that's the core pillar the other sub-pillars here that's going to help create a great life for you is you want to fall in love with health write this down with health with growth with learning with investing in yourself with execution consistent execution and with creativity those are the other pillars so we'll talk about those in a second let's get back to what does it mean to fall in love with consciousness to fall in love and consciousness is to be connected to the beauty and wonder of consciousness if you're able to do that the power of that do you see since everything is consciousness if you're able to see the beauty and wonder of any fragment of consciousness or figment of consciousness then you're basically that's going to enable you to then see the beauty and wonder of everything around you of every person of everything of every idea and this is an attitude you cultivate where you really spend time in your day just looking at figments of consciousness and appreciating them for what they are in and of themselves not for how you can use them to make money or whatever or to get yourself the next dopamine hit but just appreciate them appreciate the beauty of it and then there's actions you can take in order to deliver on your appreciation to deepen your appreciation of consciousness right i mean the most basic action you could just sit there and sort of meditate or just marvel at it see something beautiful and appreciate it for what it is but you can take that deeper you can study consciousness you can study how it works you can explore consciousness you can marvel at it in deeper ways you can also use it to be creative you can use it to inspire you have you ever been inspired by something like a work of art so let me speak to you artists out there right now artists designers creative types of people um one of the things that fuels you because i'm a very creative sort of person um one of the things that i know fuels us artists is that we have that ability to see something beautiful and then be inspired by that thing to then create our own copies of it or to create variations upon that that's how it works for us artists so you know we see something beautiful like oh i wanna that's so cool that's a cool piece of reality i wanna be able to replicate that or i wanna take that and recreate it and then take it to the next level whether it's a piece of music a video game a movie that you see a graphic design on a t-shirt or a painting whether a modern one or a classical one right and what's happening there is that the artist has the ability more so than like the business person or some or like a factory worker to to to see to see the the beauty and wonder the artistry of consciousness now this isn't just limited to artists i mean like intellectuals can do this too you can do this in an intellectual manner um and i resonate of course you know being both very artistic myself very creative and also very intellectual um i can kind of see it from multiple perspectives but it's like for the intellectual there's a sort of a a mental appreciation that we partake in like if you're doing mathematics you can see the beauty of mathematics this is what like really drives great mathematicians is the beauty of numbers the beauty of patterns that they find in numbers in geometry for example or with fractals or with algebraic equations whatever it might be for you and you know with scientists like biologists and chemists you know they see beauty in molecular biology or looking at a cell under a microscope and seeing you know its design and all the little you know particles and molecules floating around there all the different organelles of the cell and how they work and studying that stuff it's like you're studying god that's really what drives the scientist or when you're looking up at the stars you're seeing the stars and then you know if you become an astronomer um or an astrophysicist you know it's because you look up at the night sky you wonder at that and you think about you know how many stars are out there how many billions and trillions of different stars and galaxies and what kind of alien life can live out there you know it it captures your imagination inspires you and if you're an engineer then you're inspired by the beauty of uh of mechanics mechanics itself can be beautiful just you can look at some gears or some cogs you can look at a beautifully designed screw or a null nut or a bolt or a circuit board and that can you know fill you with wonder and awe and then you want to create your own and you want to take it to the next level you see so you can pursue engineering or science or academia or even art in a very shallow materialistic way where it's like you know yeah i'm just gonna i'm gonna just engineer some gadget i'm gonna engineer a car i'm gonna engineer a computer because it needs to fulfill some function and meet my boss's deadline right so that i can get my bills paid you can approach engineering in that way you can approach academia in the same way or say yeah i got to show up to class and teach a bunch of stupid kids you know some rudimentary stuff about math or science and then i go home and do my own thing right you could treat it that way um or you can just treat art that way too it's like you can show up to a you know to some employer's office and then the employer tells you what to draw for for their advertising campaign you draw it because they need it um they make a bunch of money they give you some of that and then and then you're done with your day's work but see you're not gonna ever fall in love with reality that way you're just going through the motions you've made life mechanical material you robbed it of its soul because you're not connected in any deep way to the consciousness that it's running all of life all these things are consciousness the the screws and gears in your mechanical inventions this is consciousness the computer that you're programming that's consciousness the advertisement that you're making and the minds that it is influencing the millions of minds that it's influencing across the internet or on television that's consciousness interacting with consciousness when you're looking up at the stars and you're studying astrophysics that's consciousness when you're studying mathematics and logic that's consciousness but when you're not aware of that then you're not really able to fall in love with it as effectively as you could and the more you become aware of how all of it is conscious and how all that interconnects the more odd you will be by it and the more you will appreciate and fall in love with reality because reality is just consciousness in different ways and you can choose to fall in love with different aspects of consciousness you know some things will excite you more than others not everything will be equal in your eyes because you're biased and that's fine so what you can do is you can use creativity as a sort of a medium and a leverage like a lever in order to deepen your appreciation and connection to consciousness so like for me for example i used to be a video game designer um and the thing that inspired i wanted to be a video game designer when i was seven years old when i placed my played my first game boy game um you know the shitty old game boy that used to exist it was like this green mono mono colored screen it was you know by today's standards it was awful but back then just seeing the pixels moving across the screen that captured something in me and what i recognize now you know in retrospect what that captured in me is like the motion graphics aspect of video games to me i just as a child i intuited the beauty and wonder of that and really what i was connecting with was the the motion graphic potential of consciousness and it's a and and the potential there to use these pixels to create new worlds that's in a sense what you know video game development is you're creating new worlds that couldn't exist otherwise you're literally playing god creating worlds within consciousness using you know very specific you know medium of pixels on a screen um but that's fundamentally what you're doing and so i fell in love with that um to me that wasn't just like oh i'm just going to create a video game as it's like a distraction from being bored in life it's like no no no no it was something very profound for me like for many people when they think about video games like oh it's just a toy leo why you're so seriously why would you be interested in video games they're just toys for children it's like yeah you could see it that way if you choose to that's a shallow way to see it i never saw it that way and other people like a business person might look at a video game say oh that's a great way to make a lot of money like you could make a billion dollar video game and i never saw it that way either to me video games were never about making money um to me video games were about connecting to the deepest aspect of reality being able to to literally manifest my own dreams and you know worlds that i imagined and then and then making it look beautiful with with with motion graphics that's to me what was amazing is like you're able to create this interactive reality like a dream like a virtual dream matter of pixels and you're able to make it you know as beautiful as you want basically unlimited especially these days you know graphic potential is almost unlimited these days you can create almost any kind of world you want you can pack it with whatever kind of creatures and people and plants and environments and vehicles that you want and then and then like any literally like i mean like your imagination is the limit when it comes to that you get to play god that to me is what inspired me to to be so passionate about about games you see that's it it was always spiritual for me even though back then i didn't i didn't know the word spiritual i didn't know what it meant i didn't know how all this connected now in retrospect it's obvious right but how great would it have been if i was conscious and explicit about this you know back then it would really help me to kind of see where i'm going and why why i see things differently than other people do and also why i'm so passionate about these things and also how do you develop passion for something right so you can kind of like i can kind of reverse engineer how i became passionate about life when i was young i can reverse engineer that i can see the principles behind it and now i'm teaching you those principles this doesn't have anything to do with video games you could do this with like i said engineering computers anything art whatever you want right so one of the deepest joys you can get out of life is being creative because you are god and god is creativity there's a almost metaphysical joy that comes from being creative when you learn how to be creative in the right ways and a lot of people are missing out on this creativity i think most humans on this planet are not tapping into like even one percent of their creative potential this is a a gross insult to your nature as god and i think that honestly i think that an enormous amount of people simply end up killing themselves or being stuck in depression or nihilism or cynicism or just wasting their entire life simply because nobody ever shows them their full creative potential and how to actualize it we don't really teach our children how to be creative if they become creative it's only through their own sort of intuitive efforts that they do it we don't have a rigorous process for teaching people how to be creative how to find their creative niche what they want to be creative in all the different ways that creativity can manifest itself because like when you say creative to the average person they think like oh art or painting it's like but i'm not a painter i'm not good at drawing therefore i'm not creative it's like no there are so many different ways to be creative you can be creative in business in science and mathematics and in programming in communicating with people in public speaking there's an infinite number of ways to be creative and then and then to develop your capacity to be creative in some niche this is not just a way to earn money this is not just a way to doodle on a you know on a notebook and to entertain yourself when you're bored in class you have to see it for something much deeper this is your way of connecting to consciousness and falling in love with consciousness this is your way of honoring and appreciating consciousness when you really appreciate it it's not enough just to marvel at it with your eyes you want to participate in it you want to participate in the creative process and so the more you you start to appreciate your life as this work of consciousness this work of art you start to see the miracle of your life the miracle being able to participate in this beautiful wondrous thing called consciousness this mysterious thing called consciousness and then as you get in touch with the magic of it the divinity of it you start to respect and appreciate it and then you want to devote and sacrifice your life working on its behalf and that's when your life becomes meaningful that's when you connect to life and then when you start to sacrifice and work towards it every single day that's when each of your days becomes precious and it come becomes meaningful in that it's a it's a sacrifice you're making towards the miracle of life now i want you to consider this this attitude that i'm i'm giving you right here versus the sort of typical attitude you have towards your life the typical attitude that your parents or your your friends or your coworkers have towards your life where they just wake up and then they're just running around doing the rat race stuff they got to do like doing their chores paying their bills doing what the boss told them to do that kind of stuff right very notice how different these attitudes are like very very disconnected from the beauty the wonder the divinity the mirror the the miraculous nature the mystery of consciousness like conscious has nothing to do with the with with the sort of attitude of just kind of like going through your day paying your bills earning some money doing your chores and yeah that's why you become disillusioned with life that's why you become depressed because what joy can there be how can you love life when you live that way you're just jumping through hoops basically utilitarian hoops avoiding suffering and pain trying to minimize your suffering trying to minimize people yelling at you for failing to do your job failing to show up on time this is this is not a positive constructive way to live this is a this is sort of like you're just living along the path of least resistance like you're going to school to do your homework so that your parents don't yell at you kind of thing or you're just doing the bare minimum at your job so your boss doesn't fire you sort of thing so that you can pay your bills come home at night and just eat some junk food and watch some netflix and then do it all over again the next day this is this is if you're gonna live a life like that you might as well not live at all you're wasting your life and deep down in your soul in your spirit so to speak you feel that you know that you're living way below your full potential and you should be unsatisfied with that kind of lifestyle that's a signal that your spirit is sending to you that you have to be able to decode and realize like ah yeah okay i'm not living in alignment with my highest values i'm not living at my edge i'm not in touch with the miracle of life in existence and then yeah and then you start to wonder like well what is the meaning of all this leo why was i even born why why is god god such a bastard you know put me here what kind of god would create something like this look the amazing thing about life is that you get to construct your own life that's what makes life so amazing like if you don't participate in the construction of your life consciously then it's like you're not living at all and then it can't be wonderful but if you take conscious control and you realize that like you're in a sandbox you're in an infinite sandbox here you can play around you can be creative you can you can build whatever you want now it doesn't really matter what you build and see if you're nihilistic you're going to say well leo what does it matter if i build this or if i build that all of it in the end you know in the end i'm going to die everyone's going to die the human race is going to die the sun is going to engulf the earth and the whole universe will go into a heat death and in the end what does it really matter what i create that's exactly right it doesn't matter at all what you create but what matters is how you live the principles by which you live how consciously you live how much you appreciate the process the honor with which you live so to speak like are you gonna live with deliberate intention are you gonna have a vision for yourself are you gonna create something out of your life from scratch that's really the opportunity that life is affording you that's challenging taking that on is a huge challenge is difficult it's a struggle it's not just pure positivity and and pleasure that you get when you undertake this process it requires serious work so the question is why would you ever do this work why not just coast through life and the answer is very simple is that if you decide to coast through life and not deliberately challenge yourself to work to honor the miracle of consciousness of which you are apart then what's going to happen is by default you're going to get disillusioned you're going to be compassive you're going to go with a status quo of whatever everyone else is doing around you you're going to join the herd of sheep walking off a cliff around you which is what society is you're going to engage in dumb petty shallow animalistic behaviors you're going to pursue dopamine hits just to hold you off you're going to be addicted to all sorts of things from sex to food to porn to um to trolling people online to watching hours and hours of tv and social media and perhaps even worse things like hard drugs and alcohol and you're going to slowly go down this gradual downward spiral to the point where eventually you're gonna get so stuck that you're gonna start to seriously consider killing yourself because this is no way to live life but but see the the the problem is gonna be you're gonna you're gonna you're gonna dig yourself in such a deep hole because you're gonna fail to invest in yourself and to build up and to work you know investing building up is working it involves work you're going to miss so many decades of work that you could have done to really build up a beautiful life you're going to piss away 20 30 40 years of your life not doing that that by the time you get to the point where you realize oh [ __ ] i should have been doing that what if what did i do it's gonna be too late and your soul is gonna be so crushed by the fact that you've wasted so much of your life already not having done that that it's gonna be easier for you to decide to kill yourself in many cases than it will be to put yourself back on track and to use the remainder of your life to actually build yourself up and to invest in yourself every decade that goes by that you don't invest in yourself that you piss away is going to be that it's going to be an order magnitude harder for you to begin investing in yourself go see my episode about um the importance of investing in yourself what was it what did i title it i have so many episodes it's hard for me to recall all their titles um yeah like the importance of investing in yourself i'm going to have the reason it's hard for me to call because i have like multiple episodes about investing that i have planned and a few i already released and a few more that i want to release because it's such an important topic this is probably the greatest danger that exists in society today is just to become so complacent take your survival and your life so for granted that you're just going to do the bare minimum to survive and that's it you're not going to really live to thrive you're not going to challenge yourself you're not going to take on deliberate challenges and to work extra hard to build something beautiful because there's really nothing forcing you to do it no one in society is is really beating down your door telling you you have to do this this is something again one of those things i've talked about in the past where it's like this is one of those subtle things you have to like cultivate within yourself you have to you have to have the vision to want to cultivate it within yourself because almost nobody else out there is going to tell you to do this and to watch you every single day doing it right this requires consistent really daily life a lifelong commitment to doing this on a daily basis now let's talk about the some of the other pillars here what does it mean to fall in love with some of this other stuff like with health with growth and investing in yourself with learning with execution with creativity well let's talk about health for a second you could actually reprogram your mind and shift your attitude such that for example when you go to the office and all the co-workers there are passing around uh you know a giant box of free donuts that the boss has brought in and picking out on those you might want to pig out on one of those donuts too but you also know in the back of your mind this is not healthy for you it's not good for you it's gonna you're probably gonna feel bad after you eat it in an hour and you're probably gonna regret it the next day so forth you can feel better relinquishing that donut then all your co-workers combined will feel eating that donut there's a certain mature joy that comes from renouncing something unhealthy and conversely there's a certain joy that comes from consuming something healthy health as a value and and by health i don't just mean your physical body or like to not be fat i mean health in like in a spiritual way really i mean it in in the deepest possible sense of health we've talked about health before in my episode about holism and holistic thinking part one and part two i gave you an equation part of that equation remember i talked about holism health healing oneness unity love number all that all that kind of stuff we made this master equation i told you to write it down as an important equation well we'll bring back that concept here that equation plays into what i'm talking about here because like health is really about holism and oneness it's about wanting to be whole and this is a this is a function of consciousness when when conscious functions in a holistic intelligent manner its nature is to be healthy and when consciousness is unhealthy like a if you have a dysfunctional mind it's a fragmented mind it's a conflicted mind that is fighting with itself that's what selfishness ultimately is it's a conflict within consciousness it's distorted it's corrupted right so when we're talking about the value of health the principle of health here to have an attitude of falling of with health is not just to not eat the donut because you're not going to look like how you look in the mirror because you're going to be too fat it goes way deeper than that it's like no if i'm not healthy in all the dimensions that health pertains to then in a certain sense i'm disrespecting life i'm disrespecting consciousness i'm disrespecting myself and i'm disrespecting god that's the level you want to take it to and we're talking about not just the food you put in your body not just the way that you exercise but also the way you communicate with other people is that healthy are your relationships healthy is your mind healthy is the information you're putting into your mind on a daily basis is that healthy or is that toxic and dysfunctional and corrupt are the systems you're participating in are they healthy like the company you work for is a healthy company or a dysfunctional company that is a predatory company that is producing a net negative impact on the world or society you see this matters because if you're working for a company that you don't believe in its mission its purpose and doesn't align with your values then that misalignment already is going to make you disillusioned and depressed about life in subtle ways that you may not fully appreciate for 10 20 years and see so when you cultivate this attitude and like the joy that comes from doing healthy things this is this is a sort of a more holistic approach to the problem like for example losing weight because see when most people want to lose weight they're like leo give me three quick steps for how to lose weight for my wedding that's coming up it's like this is this is completely the wrong approach the right approach is to develop this attitude of reverence towards life and consciousness and to yourself and your mind to the point where you don't want to poison yourself with bad food because you see how this is gonna damage not just your body in the short term it's gonna damage your mind your brain your ability to think your ability to be creative your ability to ultimately honor god and consciousness you see it's gonna reduce your ability to be mindful and to concentrate and to maintain focus and that's not and you're so conscious of that that it's easy for you to say no to the donut in that case you're not even tempted in that case because you would be losing your very connection to life if you did that that's the depth of the attitude you need to have to build an amazing life to fall in love with life to really see see how much you're respecting yourself in this case and how much you're respecting consciousness you have too much respect for yourself and for consciousness and for the miracle of reality to live it in such an artless way of just stuffing yourself like a pig with donuts just because your boss brought them in it's like yeah leo but they're free yeah but like how little respect must you have for yourself to to stuff your mouth with poison that's going to disrespect the entire universe just because it's free or conversely you could go to your you know your local market and buy some you know organic fruit drink healthy fruit drink or some you know fresh fruits or some vegetables or whatever or go do some juicing at home you know yeah that's going to cost you a bit more it's going to take more effort it's not going to be as popular as eating the donuts with the friends at work but see when you go and you say order the donuts and you go to the grocery store instead and you drink a healthy you know celery juice or something like that instead you can there's a higher level joy you can get out of that and but that's not something that comes straight from the celery juice it's not like you're gonna drink that celery juice and it's gonna be like oh yeah it's like oh it's as good as a donut no it's not as good as a donut if all you're doing is just you're comparing like the raw pleasure of a donut versus a celery juice but what you can do is you can program your mind with this attitude this this this larger respect and purpose that you have in life that by fulfilling on your purpose and by sacrificing and honoring on behalf of this larger purpose that connects with your spirituality you can get a deeper high sort of a mental high a spiritual high from executing on those healthy activities that you know you need to execute on versus eating that donut the pleasure in eating that one donut but that's something you have to create for yourself using your mind deliberately consciously see because the thing with the donut is that the donut you can give it a donut to an idiot and the idiot will still enjoy its taste because it just it's like a direct hit on your you know pleasure tongue receptors so to speak whereas with the celery juice it doesn't work that way it's not that same in fact when you're drinking a celery juice it tastes a little bit gross so why would anyone ever drink it well because there's a higher overriding value of health and what you're really getting pleasure from is not from the celery juice but from the health that you know the celery juice is providing to you but that requires extra mental construction you see you have to know what you're living for you have to have a vision of health because health is a long-term thing it's also a much broader thing than just the food you eat and see when you have a very high level abstract and proper understanding of health that isn't just based on particular foods but it's just a whole attitude towards life then what you can do is you can create a sort of a synergy like the celery juice you drink here instead of the donut that you could have eaten and then you know the exercise you do the yoga exercise maybe you do instead of just sitting on the couch all day or at the computer and then maybe the healthy corporations that you apply with your resume to versus the unhealthy ones that you avoid and so forth this all interconnects together and then when you're executing all on all of that successfully this gives you the deepest fulfillment you can get in life this is real happiness it's sustained you feel great about yourself you feel great about your life you have high self-esteem you feel strong you're living up to your own values you're not sabotaging yourself you're in alignment you're holistic right to be holistic means that all the parts of you are working together in a synergistic manner towards some higher ultimate purpose which let's say is in this case consciousness or love this is what makes your life worthwhile this is what makes it meaningful this is what gives you integrity you know integrity is deeply related to the concept of holism integrity is wholeness a lack of integrity is a fragmentation of your mind and your life when you're saying one thing but doing another thing lack of integrity lack of consistency this actually robs you of mental energy makes you feel bad about yourself because you're not living up to your own ideals what does it mean to fall in love with growth and investing in yourself to me this is one of the greatest joys of my life is when i am growing i'm doing something to grow myself when i'm investing in myself it can be big things maybe little things like just picking up a book and reading a book that i know is going to be good for me is going to give me the right kind of information that i need to later go on and you know do something like record a video that will help many people thousands of people to me that's an investment in myself when i'm doing that i'm not getting particularly like high levels of you know peak pleasure from reading a book but that that sense that i'm investing into myself this becomes very fulfilling especially after you've built up over years this kind of habit and you've really built up a whole reservoir right when you just read one book it's not a it's not a huge investment in yourself you don't really feel it but what's amazing is that the vision for me like the vision of of reading 500 books and the kind of neural network that that's going to develop in my mind of information all the interconnections that i make between those 500 books that i'm going to ultimately read to me that is really fulfilling and really meaningful and worthwhile and it might take a couple of decades to read 500 books and interconnect them all in that way but if i do that that is going to make me so fulfilled and that's going to provide so much value to my life and allow me to then provide that value and share with others and it's going to synergize with other aspects of of my life you know those 500 books i'm going to read they're going to help me to organize my own mind in a more holistic integrated way and i'm going to also read about health and that's going to make me better at nutrition it's going to be better at fitness and exercise it's going to make me better at the kind of work that i do my work is going to be more healthy my communications with people can be more healthy right so it all synergizes together and this is what creates profound meaning in your life and then after you execute on that for decades that's when your life becomes amazing how about so we talked about investing yourself growth so anything you do in life that grows you even a little bit you should get excited by that that should be what you're doing like every morning you're waking up what's the thing that's getting you excited is it just to go to work to punch the clock no it should be how are you going to grow today in whatever you're doing whether it's your your business your your craft your skill your art uh in your relationships in your friendships in your social skills like lately i've been motivated a lot to be going out and socializing a lot and but i'm not just doing that just like for fun every night that i go out and i socialize like i have intentions of how i want to grow how long i want to get better and i have a vision in my mind of like where i'm going to be in a few years or in five years if i keep doing this keep investing my social skills where that's going to put me how fulfilling that's going to be for me and i'm simultaneously seeing the fulfillment five years down the road that i'll be getting when i achieve all this stuff and build up you know a massive amount of momentum um and invest in myself a lot but also i'm getting i'm also getting fulfillment from executing that every single day now even though if i just go out tonight i'm not going to get all the benefit i'll get five years from now but i'm gonna like i'm gonna be excited just to do that because i can connect all those dots together i see how just like one step leads to the next in my mind but i have to create that in my mind you see this is the kind of living that like animals don't do animals can't do this humans are capable of this but the way most humans live most humans live like animals where they're not doing this because this has to be done deliberately consciously you have to plan it out and then you have to execute on it the next pillar is learning we sort of talked about it with the book example but that was also like overlapping with the example of investing in yourself but like learning um i have like three episodes that i release that talk about learning learning is behavior change learning equals making distinctions i have another one about learning i even forgot what it was called but like why do i focus so much on learning because basically life your the quality of your life all hinges upon your ability to learn every single day you should be learning in your life and and i don't just mean through books and i don't just mean through audio or podcasts or something i mean these are sort of obvious ways of learning but they're not even the highest forms of learning the highest forms of learning is when you put yourself face to face with a problem that you have to solve an experiential problem where you're facing and exposing yourself to new experiences of some kind that's when you really learn if you undertake a difficult project and you commit to accomplishing it no matter what that's when your biggest learning will happen whether that's with your social skills with your dating life with your sex life with your business with your art skills with your speaking skills with your relationship skills whatever that is you can be learning on all these fronts every single day and you can be doing it just sort of haphazardly by accident the way most people do or you can do it deliberately when you undertake the process deliberately that's when things become exciting you're not just going to work just to earn a paycheck or to accomplish some project you're going to work primarily to learn how to get better at whatever work you're doing and likewise in your relationships your relationship is not just about extracting sex from somebody anymore and it's not just about being comfortable with them and having a good time uh you know vegging out on the on the couch and watching netflix now it's about learning together learning how to be better in relationships together such that even if this particular relationship ends and collapses which most of them do let's be honest um you're still left with something you're left with the lessons that you learned about how to be better in relationship and then the next relationship you enter into you're going to be a little bit better in and then you're going to keep doing that and doing that and doing that until eventually you learn how to do really good conscious relationships so fall in love with learning an enormous chunk of my life's meaning comes simply from simply from my love of learning i love learning i love learning about how the world works how consciousness works all learning you're ultimately doing is an exploration of consciousness you're learning about various aspects of consciousness even when you're learning about relationships you're fundamentally learning about consciousness you're learning about different points of view for example in relationships but even if you're learning to draw you're learning about consciousness if you're learning to make music you're learning about consciousness you're just not really aware of that yet so if your life lacks meaning how about you undertake a deliberate learning process every single day for the rest of your life that will quickly add a lot of meaning to your life the next pillar is execution and this is a big one and i think a lot of you guys are lacking this honestly uh because i i've been talking about a lot of advanced metaphysical epistemological philosophical sorts of topics spiritual topics and the biggest problem here is that you guys love to mentally masturbate about this stuff philosophize about it in your armchair and then don't actually execute anything and then you actually will use this as a way to spiritually bypass becoming an executor in life and i've been a bit guilty of this myself i think this is sort of natural with with learning spirituality especially in the first maybe five years that you're getting into spirituality a lot of teachers and traditions they'll tell you to like stop pursuing materialistic goals and stop caring about work so much stop caring about results so much just you know sit there and meditate that kind of thing and then you become bad at execution but and then and then and then like you you could actually tell yourself you're becoming more spiritual but then your execution is waning your capacity to execute is waning and then actually your self-esteem is dropping at the same time and the reason that's happening is because half of self-esteem is called self-worth the other half of self-esteem is called self-efficacy self-efficacy is your ability to go out there and execute and do the things you want to do that you know you need to do that are healthy for you that are aligned with your values and so it can be easy to to kind of trick yourself to fall off track with that and so one of the things that i've really realized lately is that like you can do all the spiritual stuff but you have to maintain your ability to execute otherwise your self-esteem is going to tank your self-efficacy will tank you're going to feel weak you're going to be afraid to go out into the world and just do basic things because you've been sitting on the cushion for so long you've gotten comfortable with that and now you're not even comfortable going out there and like tackling some material challenge your ability to execute is huge and there's a joy that comes from simply executing consistently every single day execute execute execute execute what i mean execute you do the tasks that you know you need to do to create the kind of life that you envision yourself having that's what execution means whether it's reading a book every day that you want to read or whether it's going to work on time or whether it's meditating every day on time or it's going out and socializing or it's developing your sense of humor it's going to the gym whatever it is execute on that as you do that you become stronger and you feel more powerful you feel more capable you don't feel like a weakling you don't feel like life is this giant thing that is oppressing you a lot of people who are stuck in depression and nihilism they've been very poor executors to the point where it's like they're in a state of learned helplessness they're a victim they can't even do the basic things of like picking up a book and reading it for 30 minutes for a month straight they can't do that what awakening will there be what spirituality would there be what what love for life will there be if you can't even pick up a book and read it for 30 minutes for 30 days straight and be consistent with that you see there's a joy that comes from building this kind of discipline and again this is not the kind of joy that just kind of like it's not like eating a donut kind of joy it's a joy you have to create in your own mind it's a it's a more abstract kind of joy that needs to be constructed where it's like the first week that you execute consistently you're not going to feel that great because like you're building a new habit but then after like a month of executing consistently consistently consistently you feel great every new day that comes you're like yeah i want to i want to maintain my streak of execution and then you see how that execution is investing slowly in your life building you up growing you making you more healthy helping you to learn honoring consciousness your highest commitment in this life paying respect to your own self into your life into the miracle of existence um over time that snowballs and then you can build that up in your mind where you get a deep satisfaction out of that the alternative is don't do that and then be be lazy be a slob be depressed and also have nothing in your life to show for it you're not going to have the money you're not going to have the sex you're not going to have the intimacy you're not going to have the friendships you're not going to have the social connections you're not going to have the skills the work skills you're not going to have a good career and then your life truly isn't worth living anymore at that point if that goes on for too long you see the other pillar is creativity i sort of tackled this when i was talking about the first pillar of honoring consciousness but i think for you to practically be fulfilled in life you got to be creative in some capacity and this really we're talking about your work here you're going to be living on purpose for that see my life purpose course where i talk about how to find your life purpose how to find your values and all that sort of stuff and then how to stay on track with that and how to be creative with that these are the meat and potatoes that make for a fulfilling beautiful meaningful life and everything else is basically just distraction and petty human [ __ ] be very careful with this petty human [ __ ] i want you to get very good at identifying it when it's happening around you and when you're engaging in it what do i mean by petty human [ __ ] i mean pop culture stuff i mean gossip i mean celebrity news i mean all the social games that humans play i mean status i mean money i mean sex addiction i mean escapism i mean video games politics chasing after luxury items and food this is all petty human [ __ ] none of it produces genuine fulfillment of any kind it's all temporary it all comes and goes it's very inconsistent even if you do get it it doesn't the happiness from it doesn't last very long at all and in fact oftentimes it comes with a sort of depression and disappointment that comes afterwards even if you win at these things if you're engaging in this petty human [ __ ] you're playing a game that you cannot win however if you are engaged in pursuing the the pillars i gave you above of falling in love with consciousness and honoring it of pursuing health and growth and investing in yourself and learning and execution and creativity it's almost impossible to lose that game do you see but you have to play this game consistently and you have to motivate yourself to play that game because others won't do it for you in fact what they'll do is they'll distract you with the game of petty human [ __ ] instead every time you're trying to be healthy somebody's going to come along and try to entice you with some petty human [ __ ] like hey let's go to this restaurant and and pig out on on our favorite pizza and you have to say no that's petty human [ __ ] and i respect my own life too much to go do that with you and every time that you sit down to read a book one of your friends is blowing up your phone with celebrities latest like celebrity gossip that they're sharing with you on social media or whatever or some crypto coin get rich quick schemes like hey come let's let's do this together some nft [ __ ] you have to say no that's petty human [ __ ] i'm gonna sit here and read this [ __ ] book for for an hour instead of engaging with you in your petty human [ __ ] while you're doing all that petty human [ __ ] i'm gonna build myself up into one of the most intelligent people on this planet over the next 10 or 20 years and meanwhile in 10 20 years you're just gonna be engaged in the same [ __ ] you've been engaged in with all your friends this is how you have to think you have to be kind of ruthless here about this the reason you have to be a bit ruthless and strict with others and with yourself you have to set these boundaries is because people will otherwise drag you down into their petty human [ __ ] they're really good at creating drama and distractions at enticing you with with you know cheap thrills and things like this you have to be disciplined enough you have to have enough vision to say no to all of that and just keep going with your vision your you know your positive creative vision of the spiritual profound life you're going to build for yourself over the next few decades slowly day by day inch by inch this is about seeing value long term you see where the true value in life is and you see through the shallow stuff that seems like it has value but is actually fool's gold the petty human [ __ ] all that is fool's gold you want to be going for the real gold and the real gold is going to be the stuff you have to sacrifice for and work for yourself consciously deliberately intrinsically motivated to do not because somebody outside is telling you to do something not because you saw something on tv in some advertisement or because your friends are doing it so i want you to notice that you are addicted to low consciousness petty human [ __ ] and this robs life of its beauty for you you are literally selling off your future and your connection to spirit and to god into love and to beauty you're selling all of that off for a cheap quick hit of dopamine and you've been doing this for years and if you're depressed if you're stuck in life if you hate life you're miserable this is why fundamentally this is why so what needs to happen is you need to start to develop an attitude of investing into shoring up your fundamentals you need to change your attitude about the things you're doing in your life you want to connect with the joy of saying no to junk food and eating healthy for example you want to connect with the joy of being disciplined and doing your daily tasks you want to connect with the joy of a productive creative work day working on your life purpose the thing that's most meaningful to you to create in life you want to create joy around meditating rigorously you want to create joy out of doing a 10-day solo meditation retreat connect with the joy of hitting the gym consistently connect with the joy of learning reading books listening to podcasts and consuming high quality information how about connecting with the joy of contemplation and solitude sitting there for hours contemplating your life integrating deep insights you've had maybe from your spiritual experiences how about the joy of sitting with with a notebook and just journaling or planning out the next phase of your life in your development like where are you growing where are you going to be in a few years sit down spend the next few hours just contemplating that and enjoy that process and that is the fulfilling life life is not going to get any more fulfilling than that that process itself i'm not telling you that you know when you're planning out your life that the joy will come five years from now after your plan is executed no no no the joy is in the planning of your life right now and then of course when you do execute it let's say in five years there will also be some joy that comes from that too but you're not going to be waiting five years to get that joy you have to connect with the joy of doing these healthy activities right now the joy isn't the reward you get for being a good boy or good girl for being healthy and not eating the donut that's not that's not the reward the reward is the healthy activity itself the reward is the rejection of the donut you see the reward is drinking the glass of celery juice that is the reward and you might say well leo but that's not much of a reward you have to rewire your entire mind and its reward system that in and of itself is the reward see to be able to rewire your whole mind and its reward system that in itself can be a joy and can be rewarding do you see that but only if you make it so it's not just going to be you know super thrilling automatically you have to construct a compelling vision of that and then be inspired by that and then as you're executing on that that will give you your reward connecting with the joy of deliberate practice and training up skills i have a few videos in the past i've talked about this also in the life purpose course about deliberate practice we talk about that a lot there i have a video called um no success is possible without training training training training you guys are missing training i guarantee you if you're depressed then you suck at training and you haven't been investing in your training of your skills that's one of the reasons you're depressed how about there's a joy that comes from doing that from training but again this is a subtle joy a mature joy that has to be built up you have to build momentum up in this over over years and decades how about the joy of daily visualization practice you can get a lot of joy from visualizing effectively which you guys aren't doing i guarantee you if you're depressed you're not using visualization techniques at all i guarantee you i mean actually i guarantee you are using them but you're using them in sort of a unconscious negative manner in other words you're just visualizing all the bad stuff in your life and you're doing this completely unconsciously what i mean by visualization training or practice is like you're doing positive visualization very deliberately consciously every day you're not doing that if you're depressed the joy of going out to the club talking to girls if you're a guy you're missing out on this joy there's there's a joy that can be had there just not i'm not talking about the joy of having sex i'm not talking about the joy of making out with a hot girl i'm talking about the joy of getting your ass off your couch into your [ __ ] car driving to the club and then doing your first approach that you really don't want to do like jumping into a cold pool the joy of doing that see that's a subtle joy that's not the same kind of joy of having sex most people are so stuck on the joy of having sex that they just want that that they can't see the joy of every day consistently going to the club and doing an approach doing your first hard approach they miss that joy and the only reason maybe they do the approach is because they're telling themselves well maybe i'll get me some sex but actually the funny thing is is that you can get more joy out of doing a month of consistent approaching than you will from having sex but you have to program your mind in the right way for that joy to happen for you how about connecting with the joy of being on your edge of being strong of facing your challenges and fears of not avoiding them of not running away of not procrastinating on them this is huge there's a huge joy there's a sense of power you get when you execute consistently and you're on your edge and you're facing challenges and fears and you're doing it on a regular basis and even if sometimes you fail at those challenges still you don't give up and that gives you joy too the joy of perseverance in the face of failure see most of you who are depressed and nihilistic and disillusioned with life you're the opposite of this you get a little bit of challenging a little bit of failure and immediately you go into into this catastrophizing negative thinking about oh it's not going to work and i failed and oh my god what am i going to do and all this is [ __ ] it's all these advices it doesn't work you need to be the exact opposite of that see you get challenged you face your fears you fail and then you get even more excited because now it's like i failed that means there's a learning lesson here for me that i could improve upon what books can i go read what coaches can i go hire who can i talk to what advice can i get that will help me to face this particular challenge and overcome it and to learn the lesson i need to learn to be good at this challenge for the rest of my life to extinguish this fear forever see this is the attitude of a winner versus a loser how about connecting with the joy of difficult trips by which i mean your psychedelic excursions you know a lot of people are like well leo am i gonna have a bad trip here on this chemical or on that chemical or on this dose or on that dose it's like the bigger question is why are you avoiding these difficult trips why can't you be strong enough to handle a difficult trip why can't you even learn to enjoy difficult trips because after all what is a difficult trip when you're tripping you're just exploring consciousness you're exploring your own mind now of course some trips can be so difficult they can traumatize you so you don't want to go that far but but you know a difficult trip just on the edge of traumatizing you but not totally um you know shattering your mind and your ego again if you're on your if you're living on your edge and you have high self-efficacy you build you know building up momentum you've been executing then like lately i've been almost like enjoying difficult trips like wanting to challenge myself with difficult trips just to see how you know how deep can i go with consciousness what can i handle what am i really mad what's my full potential and that gives me a kind of joy sort of a high level joy that most people are missing out on so these days when i go into a trip i can go into it with like a lot of excitement which is not to say i don't i don't respect the power of these chemicals i respect it very much and lately i've had i've had a really difficult trip one of my most difficult trips ever but also one of the ones that grew me the most and um and when i came back from that trip i'm like i feel i feel like juiced up i feel like i'm on you know i feel like i'm i'm more powerful than ever when you go through challenges like that you're more powerful than ever and see one of the keys to life is to take on deliberate challenges because here's the thing you have to understand is that life will challenge you no matter what life is [ __ ] difficult and life gets really [ __ ] difficult you know when life gets the most difficult is when you don't have the intrinsic motivation anymore to get out of bed in the morning that's when life becomes actually the most difficult as long as you have your heart your soul your spirit as long as you're motivated intrinsically when you're following your values and you're doing things that are meaningful to you in life that you really care about and you're connected with life you're connected with its beauty and its majesty then the difficulty will still be there you will still face some really hard knocks but you will have the inner resources the morale to deal with them but when you lose your morale and you get depressed and you go into learned helplessness and you you become a victim and a complainer and a loser really nothing can nothing can go well in your life you can't feel good about your life in that situation that's an inner game problem that needs to be fixed so whether you undertake challenge or you don't you're going to be challenged but when you undertake challenge consciously the challenge is meaningful for you whereas when the challenge is not something you constantly choose but it is forced it upon you just by external circumstances then you you're not going to be really motivated to deal with the challenge and you're just going to be kind of like avoiding the challenge and you're going to be begrudging the challenge the challenge will come your way you're gonna be like oh why did god put this challenge in front of me and you're gonna feel resentful about it whereas if you undertake a challenge consciously like you wake up tomorrow morning you say you know what i'm gonna run a mile today i'm going to run a mile in 10 minutes that's the challenge i set for myself now is there any reason i have to no am i going to die if i don't do it no is am i going to lose my job if i don't do it no am i going to look really awesome and ripped if i do it no am i lose 10 pounds no so why would i do it well fundamentally because what else is there to do in life what is there to do why are you here are you here just to stay alive physically if that's all you're here for then like you've set the bar so low that you see you can't get inspired by anything and we're not inspired you're literally disconnected from the spirit of life and then yeah by definition you're depressed everything is meaningless to you because guess what survival is meaningless if all you're doing is you're just putting in cal or empty calories into your body to keep it going for one day and then you repeat that the next day and the next day and the next day and that's all you're doing your whole life then yeah and then where does that end it ends in your death and then eventually all of that was you you asked the question like on your deathbed well what was it all about why did i eat all this empty calories well just to just to get to the point where i'm dead well that was kind of pointless yeah exactly so but then you're like well what's the point of life what leo so is the point of life to build something up to like build up a billion dollars and but then on my beth bed i could wonder like well but if i have a billion dollars my account and i can't take it with me i'm going to die and i can't use it all then that was pointless too yes exactly but then you're like well so then leo everything is pointless so then i should do nothing no that's wrong what isn't pointless is to construct your own point by setting challenges for yourself and being creative and using that creativity to connect with the beauty of consciousness in the present moment that that kind of conscious living is meaningful and it has a point it is its own point it's not something you do to get some reward in the afterlife it is its own reward when you're doing art for art's sake the joy the art gives you and the connection the spiritual connection it creates between you and reality is such that you don't even need to sell the art the selling of it is irrelevant you've already got your reward by doing it it doesn't even matter if anybody buys it or not at that point that point the only purpose of selling it would be either one to share the beauty with others which could be meaningful to you of course as well or to get enough money back from it resources back from it such that you could funnel that back in so you can keep doing your art the next day you know pay your electric bill and so forth so you're going to be challenged either way uh it would be a lot better if you chose your challenges rather than having them choose you so the secret to fulfilling life is choose challenges that are aligned with your top values that are going to create for meaningful challenges that you accept willingly see there's there's a difference understand there's a difference between like walking down a dark alley at night and getting mugged by some hoodlums and getting into a street fight with them you didn't choose that right you were just walking you didn't want to fight and they just kind of like sucker punched you from behind in a dark alley that doesn't feel so good that's not that's not fulfilling you're just surviving there like an animal in that situation versus for example telling yourself you know what i'm going to become the world's best martial artist or boxer and i'm going to enter a boxing ring now do i have to enter a boxing ring no am i going to die if i don't enter a boxing ring no is it even gonna make me like rich to enter boxing ring maybe it won't you know most boxers aren't very rich um but i'm gonna i'm gonna choose that kind of life anyway i'm gonna challenge myself to just to be the best boxer i can be and you do that and as you do that you enter the ring deliberately you don't have to but you do it do it do it you're doing it consciously right and when you're boxing in the ring consciously of your own choice no one's holding a gun to your head forcing you to be there that's when you can fall in love with boxing as an art see you're not doing it because you have to you're doing it because you want to and that's in a sense the definition of a fulfilling life imagine a life in which everything you're doing is something you want to be doing not something you have to be doing isn't that the kind of life you would want but see you have to earn that kind of life that kind of life takes work you would think that that kind of life would be easy it's like you can just sit around and wish for for like things to be magically manifested to you but that's not really that what that kind of life entails that kind of life means like if you really want something you have to work for it so you have to sacrifice for it for years to get it that's the reality of living a life where you're doing everything you want it's not the life that you imagine of like oh i win the lottery i can just buy whatever i want no how about connecting with the joy of building up the infrastructure for your success i have an episode called building up the infrastructure for your success go check that out to me that's one of the joys of life that i've been noticing i get a lot of fulfillment from is is like and what do i mean by infrastructure i mean i mean like little things like for example if i find a great new alarm clock on amazon i get excited by that because in my mind i'm not just buying a single alarm clock i'm buying an alarm clock that i'll be using like for the rest of my life that will help me to stay on track with all my goals to wake up on time to show up to meetings on time to meditate on time to do all these things that i you know need to do that are related to alarm clocks and timers you know cook my food on time and if i find an alarm clock that like optimizes all that and works really beautifully and perfectly it also looks nice if i find something like that i might buy 10 i might buy 10 of those things and put them all over my house right and to me that's like a little piece of infrastructure that i've installed into my life that's going to help me to stay on track and do the things i need to do you know for the rest of my life that's how i frame it in my own mind that gives me a lot of meaning and fulfillment just something as simple and stupid as that and then you know it also makes my life a little bit more productive like 0.01 more productive because i found you know a little better alarm clock or something how about connecting with the joy of saying no saying no to toxic unhealthy stuff saying no to toxic food saying no to toxic dysfunctional activities with friends saying no to being in unhealthy environments saying no to unhealthy chemicals and products and additives saying no to toxic work or business stuff toxic marketing stuff saying no to toxic dysfunctional relationships just like no there's a power you get from that right it can be hard to say no but it can also be easy to say no once you build up that muscle you want to get to the point where you respect yourself and your own consciousness so much you respect reality so much that you're not going to compromise yourself for some quick little bit of pleasure with some toxic unhealthy thing you just say no and then you get pleasure from saying no you get more pleasure from saying no then you would from consuming that toxic thing lately i've been practicing this with girls because you know i go out to the nightclubs uh flirt around with girls practice my social skills uh sometimes in the night club you know i'll meet like a really drunk girl um and it's interesting because it presents a sort of a you might say ethical moral dilemma it really it's really a test of integrity because it's like okay she's into me she's attracted if i keep pushing this it could this could lead to sex um some you know some easy sex um should i capitalize on that or should i say no i could say no because of just you know like sort of like i don't want to i don't want to be you know i don't want it to like boomerang on me you know she might regret it then she might accuse me of rape or something like of course that's an obvious reason not to do something like that but but lately you know um i found like an even deeper reason to say no and the even deeper reason is like i'm just disgusted you know like when i see when i see a girl in a club that's too drunk when i see people who just drink and don't respect their own health and their own bodies like i don't mind if somebody has a drink or two to let loose at a club that's fine but like if i see that the person is like a habitual drinker drinks way too much gets way too wasted just it becomes very sloppy um and just doesn't really respect their own health their own consciousness or the consciousness of reality when i see that in a girl it just makes me disgusted with her i don't even want to have sex with her at that point and so the reason to say no is really because not because i'm worried of like well what will happen if i sleep with her no the reason to say no is because it just violates my own respect for consciousness and when i say no in that case it makes me feel so good even though i don't get the sex i mean i'm not going to say it's as pleasurable as sex saying no is not going to be as pleasurable as sex but you can kind of trick your own mind you know again it's like reprogramming your mental palate such that the saying no the integrity maintaining your integrity in that case um it gets it gets to the point where it's more fulfilling to say no than it is to engage in this kind of like low integrity stuff that's the kind of place you want to train yourself to get to that's not easy to do but you can work on it you can practice it there's a joy that you can get from staying on purpose and on track with your life purpose but for that first you gotta discover what your life purpose is for which you should see my life purpose course you can connect with the joy of optimizing your health your health just like sit down like there's a joy that can come if you just sit down for the next hour with a with a notebook and you start asking yourself the question at the top of the page right you know how can i optimize my health in every possible little way and then make a list of all the possible ways you can optimize your health just by generating that list already you'll experience some level of joy but then when you start executing all those you know week after week you know it could be little things you know one way i could optimize my health is you know buy better shampoo the more expensive organic kind rather than like the the cheap toxic chemical kind that's one way another way is that i could you know do more juicing rather than just eating processed foods that's another way another way might be to optimize my health is to um you know do a little jog in the morning or just go for a walk in the evening after my my work is done that could be a little extra you know optimization for my health an another way might be to um get more purified water like maybe the water i'm drinking right now isn't the highest quality maybe i can install some you know better water filters that will optimize my long-term health because you know you're drinking that water every day you know gallons of it every day for years for decades so it all adds up maybe other way to optimize your health is do some chelation heavy metal detox i have an episode about how to do heavy metal detox go check that out maybe another way to optimize your health is to read some books about nutrition or about fitness or maybe install a home gym or something like that invest in a home gym that might be a way to do it um join a yoga class that might be another way to do right so you you make a list and then as you do each one of those you're not going to do them all at once this could take you years to do them all but as you check each one off and do it this gives you joy see if you were living a fulfilling life this is the kind of [ __ ] you would be doing this is healthy living and you would get to such a point imagine doing this for 10 20 years so consistently that eventually you reach a point where you're not even lured in by things like donuts and pizza and beer and alcohol and other kind of stupid [ __ ] like this you're too busy optimizing your life and your health and honoring consciousness and connecting with you're too busy doing that to care about this shallow petty [ __ ] right so what you're doing is you're replacing the shallow pleasures of life with the jeep the deep joys of life and you're gonna at first when you start doing this you're going to be sort of underwater in the sense that you're going to feel like you're sacrificing a lot of pleasure and you're not getting a lot back in return immediately because you're going to be saying no to some amazing pizza and beer but you're going to be saying yes to like some celery juice and some jogging it's like oh that's that's not a really good trade i feel like i'm losing in this trade i would have won if i selected the pizza and the beer rather than the jogging and the celery juice right but then as you keep you know building up these these more subtle you know spiritual joys um the the depth the depth builds on itself and it reaches to the point where you reach the tipping point and the shallow stuff now all of a sudden it doesn't fulfill you as much as the as the deep stuff and that that inflection point is crucial to reach in your life and then you keep pumping into it pumping into it more and this equation completely you know it completely seesaws in the other direction and to the point where this stuff is just like it's like like if you tell me right now leo um hey you want to go shoot up some heroin um we got some amazing heroin you know in the back alley let's go do some like um it if i hadn't spent 20 years investing in my life every single day really building myself up building up my mind my brain my body all that like building everything in my knowledge with my life probably building all this up then and i had like nothing to do i had nothing to lose right then yeah maybe i would take you up on going up shooting up some heroin but when i have built up so much of this other amazing stuff going on in my life the appeal of going shooting up heroin in some back alley like there's zero appeal to that zero actually it's a little bit funny actually there is some appeal of that because like at this point i would be willing to shoot up heroin just to experience its effect on my consciousness just purely from an exploration of consciousness perspective and i bet you i could do it and not get addicted to it um uh because the people who do get addicted to heroin it's not actually so much because the heroin is so addicting it's because they have nothing else going on in their life that's really that's that's one of the key discoveries about addiction that we've discovered in the last 50 years is that addiction is not really about the chemical itself you can addict yourself on almost any chemical uh including sugar caffeine and fat and other salt and other things like that um the the real thing that makes you an addict is a lack of these other deeper fulfillments in life that you've cultivated over a long period of time if you're missing those and you've got nothing else going for you then it's extremely easy for you to become an addict and in that case you probably already are one you don't need heroin for that how about connecting with the joy of exposing yourself to new experiences by the way uh i don't i don't recommend you do heroin even even for the consciousness exploration aspects i don't recommend you do it [Music] you'll get a lot more out of psychedelics than you will add heroin it'll be a lot safer the problem with heroin is that a lot of it these days is cut with fentanyl so you just easily kill yourself through a unknown fentanyl overdose by consuming cut heroin so a very very bad idea that's the other reason why i wouldn't do heroin is because if like if i knew it was pure pure pure heroin which you can't really know these days but if i knew it was pure for sure like from a lab i would be i'd be fine to do it but like um but if you're just buying heroin online or off the street somewhere uh chances are very high it's laced with fentanyl or cut with fentanyl and so um yeah it's like you're playing russian roulette at that point and the only reason you'd be stupid enough to play with that is because you have nothing else you've built up in your life so you don't actually respect your life if you respected your life you would never play russian roulette with with yourself in that way and in many other ways all right so the next point is the connecting with the joy of exposing yourself to new experiences i have a whole episode called expose yourself to more experience that's huge this is how you learn this is how you grow challenging experiences things that take you out of your comfort zone a lot of you guys just don't have a sense of direction in your life because you have you don't have enough experience base go actually do some [ __ ] travel around go to night clubs talk to interesting people talk to some homeless people you know work in different jobs expose yourself to different kinds of experiences this will grow you this will create sort of a grist for the meal you can use that experience base to then build your whole life from that you need some grist for the mill to get the milk going a lot of you youngsters who are like in your early 20s or even lower than that um the reason it's difficult for you to get going with personal development you just lack experience so just go expose yourself to more experience how about connecting with the joy of adding massive value to the world this is something i talk about inside the life purpose course if you're interested in a deeper discussion of that but for me adding massive value to the world is a big thing that creates a lot of meaning for me in my life seeing myself as a value adder that's that's something i'm going to talk about in the future is what exactly is value how do you identify what value is i'm not going to go into that here but um but yeah once you know what value is and how to find it how to generate it how to create it with your life purpose and how to share with others this is huge it's hugely rewarding you know i said well leo isn't all value relative in the ultimate sense yes but still practically speaking even if you're a relativist you still have values you're living by certain values and certain values are gonna lead to a more fulfilling life than other values and so values are huge and i talk a lot about values in my life purpose scores a big chunk of the first part of the like the first third of the life purpose course is all about just helping you find your top 10 values so if you're confused about that check out the course it's very practical in that respect it's probably one of the most in-depth value finding processes that you'll find out there in any self-help material like i spent a lot of time developing this process of how to find your top values it's pretty rigorous and comprehensive how about connecting with the joy of looking at beautiful things just just that this will make you fall in love with life like it's hard for me to communicate how much joy i get out of beauty the beauty of conju like when i walk out of my house i look at trees cars the sun the clouds the desert where i live even my own body when i look at my own body i just get joy out of looking at the beauty of my own body and i don't i'm not a particularly like handsome chad here by you know by human standards but by but by you know absolute standards my body is a work of art i can connect with that um just that that alone is enough to create an amazingly fulfilling life if you keep doing that how about connecting with the joy of human connection of conscious relationships how about you set a intention for yourself not to just do these shallow comfortable toxic relationships that you've been doing just for you know your own selfish pleasure but how about you do conscious relationship how about you master conscious relationship in your life how's that for for a purpose to pursue that would be really fulfilling and meaningful now as to how to actually do that well that's it's a deep topic i'll have a video on conscious relationships coming soon but um but hey i mean you can start you can start on that with all these points do not get stuck with this common objection of like leo yeah but how do i do that how do i optimize my health how do i find the joy of looking at beautiful things how do i add massive value to the world how do i do conscious relation i don't know how leo tell me the one two three four five step process i've mentioned elsewhere that it doesn't matter if you don't know how what matters is that you know what you want if any of these things that i'm talking about is sounding appealing to you and it gets you inspired and it lights a fire under your ass and it wakes you up in the morning thinking about it and it makes you giddy inside and excited and you're fascinated by this subject or whatever that's enough that's that's all you need that will automatically generate all the action steps coming in the future you don't need to know all the action steps to begin you don't need to know how to do conscious relationship just the idea of conscious relationship if you're like oh yeah that sounds cool to me great that that's enough you can wake up tomorrow and go to google and type in conscious relationship and look for [ __ ] books on that [ __ ] or you can just sit down even more fundamental than that sit down with a piece of paper and say you know rather than waiting for leo to tell you how to do a conscious relationship how about you sit down for the next hour with a notebook and you at the top of the page you write how do i practice conscious relationships and then you make a list of 100 things you could do the answers are inside of you you're just too lazy to sit down and extract them you're waiting for me to just like spoon feed you this [ __ ] which is really in itself not healthy how about the joy of conscious leadership that's another topic i'll be covering soon is conscious leadership but there's a lot of joy and meaning you can get out of that and what's cool about these topics like conscious relationship or conscious leadership for example is that there's so much depth to these things you could spend the next 20 years learning about conscious relationships mastering that learning about conscious leadership and mastering that think about how fulfilling that would be how meaningful that would be how about the joy of simply becoming more selfless and loving we've talked about that as basically being the purpose of life i've said that many times already throughout my videos why don't you make that your life purpose to become more selfless and more loving i mean that right there is enough to create deep meaning and um a deep love for your own life and in general just how about the joy of a life well lived in the end that's what we're really talking about and look um there's no right or wrong here in the sense of like i'm telling you what to do or i'm trying to impose some of my definitions of a good life on you it's just like whatever you yourself decide is necessary to consider your life well lived is what you should be doing whatever that is now there's more wise ways and more foolish ways to go about that you know if you think that a life well lived means a billion dollars in your bank account on your deathbed i mean by all means pursue that if you must but uh also recognize that that's pretty foolish pretty limited if you don't recognize that now at some point you will maybe on your deathbed you'll realize why i say that's limited the things that i've generally outlined for you here these things are rather unlimited these are things you can pursue they're healthy things they're things you can spend years and decades trying to master and they will pay dividends in your life and you will get a lot of fulfillment out of pursuing them but also notice that these are these are subtle mature joys these are not peak raw pleasure states in a sense you have to brainwash yourself into these joys principles values and ideals until your mind is rewired enough that it sticks and no one will do this work for you no one will tell you to do this except me and maybe a few other people out there who are teaching this kind of stuff but generally speaking nobody in society or in culture is going to tell you to do this so now is the time for you to make a commitment to unhook yourself from dopamine and from chasing petty human [ __ ] now is the time for you to con to commit to living a sober life and really everything i've been talking about here we could summarize as the joy of sober living imagine being so sober that you're hyper sober your conscious the soberness breaks out into a sort of transcendent consciousness that's in a sense what spirituality is and that's what the the best life possible is the hindus might call this the satwik life sat means truth means like sober in a certain sense whereas you know as opposed to um rogers they have rajas which is sort of like the over excited overstimulated life and then they have what's the other one they have the other one where it's i'm blanking on it they have the hindus have the third term which is the kind of like the torporous life the life where you're you're sleepy and lazy and you're you're depressed and you're gorging yourself on food um these are like the three these are known as like the three gunas so um yeah you want the saatva kind of life now you might say well leo but um but you're talking about like what do you mean sober you're you're talking about psychedelics and stuff that's not so that's not a sober life actually the use of psychedelics that i'm talking about in the way that i use them it is a sober life so the notion of sobriety here our cultural idea of sobriety is is kind of messed up uh it's not quite right um sober means that you're you're really what is sober mean sober means truthful really sat truth uh saatva um sober means you're living in truth and you are saying no to all the petty human [ __ ] you're saying no to all the addictions to all the unhealthy all the toxic stuff uh all the stimulation the kind of like cheap shallow stimulation you're saying no to that kind of stuff you know to the cheap shallow entertainment the cheap shallow sex the cheap sallow food you're saying no to all that stuff and you're basically building up a healthy kind of like very solid life based on principles based on holistic integrity based on health that's really what is meant by sober here and then psychedelics actually amplify that right so it's not about never putting a chemical into your into your brain that's not the thing um and if you know you can use psychedelics in an addicted way a lot of people use weed this way so that would not be a sober life like if you're costly high on weed and stoned all the time and you know um lazy on the couch that would not be a sober life but if you trip occasionally like once a week once a month you do a deep trip and you discover you know deep spiritual truths and that and have awakenings and god realizations and so forth and you're using this as a you know as a spiritual modality in addition to all the other stuff you're still doing right you're not just tripping and then being an addict and sitting at home and watching cartoons that's not what i'm talking about i'm talking about executing on all the other [ __ ] you got to execute on top of doing your trips and handling your hard trips and integrating those and then still doing manual spiritual practices and then just beyond spiritual practices you're just executing on your life purpose and all that that to me is sober in fact that's beyond sober and that you know when you're doing five meow dmt or dmt on top of all the executing [ __ ] that you're supposed to be doing and living according to these principles and eating healthy and doing all that stuff that is beyond sober hyper sober life that's what that is and uh that's what i recommend for you now again to build up this hyper sober life you have to really change your palate it's not going to really compete head-to-head with just raw pleasure and it requires building momentum months and years of building momentum you must reject mediocrity laziness weakness wasting your life just in principle the idea of wasting your life this should be like the greatest sin in your mind this i i don't know of a higher sin of a greater sin that you can do to god than to like i mean basically when you're wasting your life by being lazy weak complaining bitching moaning trolling living in mediocrity just kind of going with the path of least resistance doing what everybody else is doing watching a bunch of tv and wasting a bunch of your time on social media chasing pleasure getting drunk this is like you're spitting in the face of god that's essentially what you're doing when you're living that way you're completely wasting the potential that you've been given you're completely disrespecting the miracle of consciousness around you it's not that you can offend god you can't offend god but what you can do that in a certain sense it's like stabbing god in the heart is to overlook the miracle that is your life and to take it for granted there's so much beauty in that there's so much profundity in your life there's there's infinite infinite beauty infinite variety infinite creativity infinite intelligence went into constructing this life for you and what do you do with it you sit around and you watch [ __ ] netflix and dick around online with your friends and you sit back and you complain and you [ __ ] and you moan and you criticize and you come up with [ __ ] conspiracy theories and you get lost in those and you pretend like you're doing spirituality but you don't actually [ __ ] execute and you don't actually you're not willing to work for anything in your life this this is the greatest sin and you're gonna pay for that not because god is gonna punish you but see you are god and when you overlook your own spirit that is the punishment it's not that god is punishing you for being bad it's that you are punishing yourself for being blind to the infinite love and beauty that is all around you you get that so instead choose to face challenges consciously in your life head on choose your challenges choose your sacrifice what are you willing to sacrifice to construct a beautiful life ask yourself that what kind of life is worth sacrificing for if you're saying leo i don't i don't want to sacrifice anything that's because you don't have a vision of a grand enough life that is worth any kind of sacrifice this also means no more sloppy living this means living according to what's called the principle of right action this is something i learned from owen cook i like this concept of principle of right action look you know what the right action is in most situations most days you know what you need to be doing and if you don't know it's not that hard to sit down to figure it out with a notebook you can figure it out in a couple of days what the right actions are for you for the next year or two or five but then the problem is that you don't you don't do the right actions you're not principled enough to do them you're not disciplined enough to do them you haven't built up the momentum or the consistency and you haven't programmed your mind with enough of a compelling vision and reason for why you should be living according to the principle of right action so you got to get all those pieces together and then when you're living on and executing on the principle of right action that's when you're going to feel at your best now you might say well but leo how do i begin doing all this let's say i'm stuck in a rut what do i do step number one is you decide that you want to do this decide that you do not want to be disillusioned with life and that whatever it takes you will do whatever it takes to build up your zest for life and that disillusionment is not acceptable to you a lot of this is just about what standards do you set for yourself do you respect yourself and your life enough to set a clear standard and boundary that you will not allow your life to go to waste with disillusionment with nihilism with cynicism with you know victimhood that's step number one you can decide to do that and then step number two is to start taking action every single day and again here you're gonna say but leo i don't know what actions to take i don't know how to i don't know how to how to do this again it doesn't really matter you can sit down with a notebook at the top of page of the notebook you can you know write something like what actions do i take that make me disillusioned with life and write down a list and then write down another question like what would i have to do to convince myself to never take these kinds of actions again and write down a list of what you'd have to do and already look you've got your action list and then start just doing it at some point in this work you have to stop thinking about it just keep it simple figure out what actions you got to take figure out what actions you don't got to take the ones that are the wrong actions and then just execute do the right ones don't do the wrong ones it's that simple right you there's times when you have to sit and contemplate and think and then once you're done with that then you have to act and more thinking about how to avoid acting or to shortcut acting that's not gonna help you that's just gonna hurt you right don't try to get too clever with your thinking where you you think you can think yourself out of action no you do some thinking and then that thinking leads to certain actions and you got to go take that [ __ ] action not think some more about how you should avoid it or how to make it easier don't worry about how to make it easier sometimes there's only the difficult way of doing something do it the difficult way later if you find some easier more efficient way fine you can you can switch but usually when you begin something you just start doing it in an inefficient difficult way but you do it it doesn't have to be perfect you just do it like don't underestimate the power of just vision of just knowing what you want like if you know deep enough that you do not want to be disillusioned by life that's enough for you to to break yourself out of this rut but like you have to really latch on to that it's not enough for you just to sit there and think about it for 10 minutes and then to forget about it and go back to watching tv the next day that's not going to work like you gotta you gotta like really latch on to what you want you have to get very clear about it and very serious about it in your mind when you say you want something i want you to stop just wanting things just like wishing for things like when a mature person wants something what it means to want something if you want something you're gonna sacrifice and work for it that's what it means to want something if you're not going to sacrifice and work for it that means you don't actually want it for example you guys a lot of you guys like do you want sex do you want a girlfriend every guy will say yes but then it's like are you willing to work for six months going out three nights a week for four hours a night approaching 20 girls a night flirting getting better at social skills going on dates are you willing to do that and are you willing to fail for six months straight until eventually you get your girlfriend and get your sex do you want that that's the real question the real question is whether you want sex or not the real question is do you want to go through the process to get it that's the real question and if you don't want that then you're not going to get your sex nor do you deserve it and if you were really wise and mature you would say yes i want that i don't mind investing the next six months doing that because not only am i going to get the sex and the girlfriend from that but i'm going to get something even better which is all of the growth the learning all of the challenge all of the self-reflection that i will have to do all of the facing of my own fears and overcoming my own weaknesses all of that i'm gonna make myself a strong man in the next six months through this process in fact what i want is the process more than the sex or the girl and even more than that i want to enjoy that process and in fact that's what the joy of life is the joy of life is not getting the girl or getting the sex the joy of life is that process of me undertaking some challenge exposing myself to a lot of experience going through this adventure this roller coaster ride getting pummeled some to some nights you know getting pummeled um doubting myself struggling through it but figuring it out finding friends and resources along the way you know learning and enjoying that and being conscious of it and seeing it as my own evolution and growth that is in fact what life is supposed to be not just people handing you goodies on a silver platter like here's some [ __ ] on a silver platter for you no that's not doesn't that doesn't make a fulfilling life if you were handed [ __ ] on a silver flower you would take it for granted in fact plenty of guys get handed [ __ ] on a silver platter these guys do not appreciate [ __ ] they don't appreciate women they don't become good lovers they don't become good at sex they have no idea how to have amazing sex they don't know how to please a woman nor do they know how to please themselves so don't be jealous or envious of people who get it easy people who get it easy people get things handed to them whether it's money a business sex maybe they're just born with great genetics great health great physical appearance great hair whatever it is pretty eyes like you know don't be too jealous of these people people who have life too easy they come out weak in the end they're not really tested they're not really challenged and they're they're not going to be deep people for example a lot of the most attractive women they're they're not they're not known for being the deepest people in the world why is that because when you're a very physically attractive woman all of your value is sort of on the outside people judge you by what's on the outside what's on the inside doesn't matter so much because men and other women even they just appreciate you just for the outside and then you know um imagine growing up that way since you're like a teenage girl you grow up that way like pretty girl everybody kind of like kisses your ass is extra nice to you gives you things you know guys will give you things they'll buy you drinks they'll take you on vacations and they'll fly you around and in their fancy cars all this sorts of stuff this will spoil you imagine how this spoils these girls and then like these girls i've spoken to something they're so [ __ ] shallow like there's nothing there's nothing spiritual going on it's just like a empty husk and you think oh well wouldn't it be nice to be this girl you know everybody is kissing her ass on instagram and then everybody at the clubs wants to get with her and she gets easily like leo but girls have it so easy to get you know she gets sex whatever she wants she has so easy and us as guys we have to struggle you know leo me as a short guy as a bald guy as a fat guy as an ugly guy as an insult i gotta struggle so hard to get sex yeah but you see she doesn't appreciate the sex you appreciate the sex because of how hard you have to work for it and then who you become in the process is really the gold so don't be envious of these kinds of people who have it too easy they don't appreciate what they got you will only appreciate things in life that you work your ass off for that you bleed for that you cry for that you sacrifice for that you kill parts of your ego for that's what you're going to appreciate in life and that's what other people will appreciate the most about you people who are deep now people who are shallow they'll appreciate of course some of the shallow goodies like the sex you can offer them the money and whatever else you know the social status but the deep people what they'll really appreciate in you is is really the challenge you went through to become who you became and they will have no idea the kind of [ __ ] you struggle through to get to where you got to they'll just assume you were born that way but what will really tickle you inside is when they just assume that you're this amazing person you were just born lucky and then you know deep down inside how hard you had to [ __ ] work to become that way like when i go out to the club a lot of times you know i meet random people um sometimes you know i'm just just the other day i was i was out um a lot of times i meet people who know me from actualize.org um you know fans will meet me out there shaking my hands stuff like that and a lot of times they'll say oh my god you're so extroverted and in my mind i'm thinking like you have no [ __ ] idea what i had to go through to make myself seem this extroverted right this is like years of [ __ ] grinding through going out doing [ __ ] that i [ __ ] hated doing to make myself seem this kind of extroverted and charismatic it's like you had no [ __ ] idea how shy i was the most fulfilling aspect of life is who you're going to become by working your ass off to evolve and to grow yourself and the deepest challenges you're gonna have to face your own deepest inner demons you're gonna have to face to actualize your full potential that's what makes life meaningful and fulfilling taking on that challenge willingly and joyfully that's like a noble warrior going into battle that's the hero's journey i've talked about that in my episode called the truest heroes or no the highest hero's journey go check that out i also talk about in my life purpose course life is like a game life is like a simulator right and a game only works when there's challenge games that are too easy are not rewarding you notice if you know this if you're a serious gamer that's how to treat life it's a game but you have to play it seriously it has no point but you play it seriously nonetheless so if you're sick of being stuck in a rut of being addicted of being miserable of being depressed and nihilistic and cynical then here's your new vision your new vision is living a sober disciplined on purpose life building a life that you're proud of whatever that is you get to define it that's part of the beauty here you're defining what life you want and then you're constructing it and that's where the joy comes from you're creating a life according to your unique values and strengths in a sense you're carving out your own destiny and you're fighting for it and you're struggling for it and you're going through all the challenge of that and imagine this as your ultimate vision of what you're working towards is eventually you're going to work through all of this [ __ ] and you're gonna develop an infectious love for life and for consciousness that's what you ultimately want what is stopping you from doing that what is stopping you from creating that you might say oh leo but i don't know you know yeah i would like to have an infectious love for life and consciousness but i i just don't know what to do it doesn't [ __ ] matter that you don't know what to do what matters is what do you want if you want something bad enough you will figure out how to create it not in one day or in one week this is a long process and there's a lot of research that you'll be doing right when you say i don't know how to do something all that means is you just got to do some research and today in the internet age with all the access to books and to podcasts and videos and this and that like courses that are available online figuring out how to do something is trivial in many cases you can google how to do anything and you'll find leads that will point you in the right direction you can find people you can ask the problem is that you is the problem isn't that you don't know how to develop an infectious love for life and consciousness the problem is that you're not taking that goal seriously again what it means to say that you want an infectious like let me let me just ask you do you want right like serious do you want an infectious love for life and consciousness do you want that yes or no now if you answer yes realize what you're saying what you're saying is that you're willing to do whatever it takes and to work as long as it takes to develop that that's what you're saying yes to you're not just assuming it's gonna fall on your lap i'm not just going to hand it to you so really what you got to do is you got to like get leverage on yourself and really commit to doing the work and seeing the value in something like developing an infectious love for life and consciousness and then as long as your mind gets fully bought into that and you program yourself with that vision the rest the rest is i mean you're you're almost half done at that point the rest is just follow through you'll figure out the rest trust that you'll figure out the rest you don't need you don't need me to give you a you know a 10-step formula for how to do it although of course that is what i'm doing through all of my videos it's a large project so a lot of times i'll talk about some topic in a video and it's not explicitly clear that what this topic is about is really helping you to develop an infectious love for life and consciousness but that is what i'm trying to teach you just indirectly that's what the whole channel is about here but we have to break it down you know little pieces sometimes it's broken down so much that you lose sight of the forest for the trees so now we're showing you the forest look you're going to be dead soon life goes by very fast start now stop waiting there's nothing to wait for start now you can start now even if you're stuck in a rut you can start now you start with baby steps and the beauty of it is that as soon as you start even with baby steps you start to feel better you don't need the end result to feel better you will feel better as you start taking action and the more consistently you take the action the more momentum you build the less you slack off the more engaged and excited you're going to get and the better you're going to start to feel and it's going to start to snowball for you and then you're living life on purpose you're living life consciously now a lot of what i talk about with actualize.org is deconstructing your reality i've mentioned that concept quite a lot in past episodes and that is what we're doing at sort of the deep metaphysical epistemological level but always keep in mind that this deconstruction of reality project there's a lot of ways it can go sideways there's a lot of traps involved with it i've talked about that as well there's a lot of ways you can kind of like the ego can weaponize it and distort it and use it for spiritual bypassing other sorts of you know tricks like this and so just as a simple rule of thumb how do you know you're doing it properly if you're deconstructing reality you're gonna deconstruct your reality yes but you're always going to maintain that zest and joy for consciousness and living on purpose with passion you're not going to deconstruct that now of course you can you can try to deconstruct that and at some point if you get deep enough you will have to deconstruct your life purpose and even your passions and so forth but the purpose of the deconstruction when the deconstruction is really done successfully in the end what it leaves you with is a appreciation it leaves you in a state of profound not knowing and a deep appreciation a recognition of the mystery of consciousness of reality and the miracle that it is the divinity of of consciousness and that is an exciting thing right like your eyes should be glowing when you're [ __ ] awake you're so awake your eyes are glowing at the wonder around you like what the [ __ ] is this thing that we're in and like you should be falling in love with it not moping around and being lazy and watching tv but like you should be getting sucked and absorbed into the the radiant beauty of everything you see around you what you're deconstructing a lot of what you're deconstructing is like the mental baggage the concepts the social conditioning you got from society the religion science all this sort of craft political ideologies even new age ideas like you're gonna in the end you're trying to clear you're trying to clear everything so that you're just left with like raw consciousness right as raw as you can get it and then it's just gonna be raw consciousness plus it's it's just natural radiant beauty and then your passion for it your love for it and then just whatever naturally spontaneously wherever that leads you whether that leads you towards art or towards socializing or towards relationships or marriage or family or a big business you want to start or some organization you want to start or a calm you and you want us whatever you want to do wherever you know your passion draws you towards your passion for consciousness all right that's it hope that inspired you a little bit a bit of a motivational speech for you um the problem i see is that a lot of the things that i've been teaching over the last few years have been very advanced they're very abstract very metaphysical existential philosophical and a lot of you guys just need to work on your basic execution and basic self-help i want to remind you that you make sure to handle the basics i don't cover as much of the basics in technical detail as many of you need so go and find those channels books courses resources podcasts whatever which will cover some of the basics here um my focus is on the very like the deepest aspects right like what i can help you with with my my forte is to help you to literally understand reality at levels that no human being understands reality at i can help you with that that's my specialty um but for me to be able to do that you got to be ready like you got to have the basics [ __ ] down right like before we can launch you into outer space you got to like learn how to just like live on earth on planet earth and a lot of you guys just haven't you're first of all you're just too young a lot of you guys are very very young or plenty of you have mental disorders mental dysfunctions stuff like that or traumas from your childhood whatever lack of education lack of development you know what whatever happened for you you gotta handle that [ __ ] and i'm not gonna cover don't expect me to cover every topic you need to help you to cover all those basics i'm teaching advanced stuff i say advanced not just to make myself you know put myself up on a pedestal it truly is advanced and if you don't handle the basics your life is going to be kind of like inverted and upside down you're gonna have a lot of advanced theory and maybe even some advanced awakenings and you know you have some mystical experience and so forth you're gonna do some of the advanced stuff but then you're gonna be missing all like the basic stuff which is necessary for just a functional life you're going to be especially missing on like that that execution and a lot of like the basic joys some of the the healthy habits like you got to install those um so make sure you do that and you utilize other other sources i i have books on my book list that will help you to do that um but you know reach out find those sources there are there are many sources out there that are better than i am at teaching you you know the little the sort of like simple basics uh because like my mental energies i don't want to waste my mental energies on that because there's plenty of that already out there i want to put my mental energies towards like the very tricky very subtle very advanced stuff that you're really not going to find anywhere else because that's just what my greatest strength is also what my passion my interest is in and i gotta follow my passions so um make sure you don't skip on that because you will regret that and in fact you will then start to blame me for it because you'll say oh leo leo didn't teach me the basics that i needed to leave didn't teach me to tie my shoes and leo didn't teach me to cross my t's and dot my eyes yeah because that's not what i'm here for so make sure you're clear about that you don't you're not fooling yourself some of you guys fall into the trap of just like listening to me and only to me thinking that you're gonna get everything you need from me and i'm telling you that that's not correct so be careful with that trap and also one final thing i want to point out is that i am working on some new courses in addition to the life purpose course the new course i'm working on it's going to be even more practical and life-changing than the life purpose course which already gets a lot of very positive um sort of like practical life-changing testimonials and reviews but it's gonna it's gonna even top that one um i've been struggling to finish it it's maybe like i have it outlined maybe half of it i need to finish the outline and then start recording videos on that i mean i'm hoping to get that done like by the end of the year um stay tuned like when that course is released that's gonna be like a game changer that's gonna take all of the free actualized content it's gonna like it's gonna it's just gonna like take all that and like [ __ ] double it it's gonna it's gonna show you how to take all the abstract like really obstruct difficult concepts that you don't know how to implement it's gonna show you how to implement all of them so it's gonna be a technique that shows you how to implement all of the all of the like all of the abstract stuff that you have no methods for how to implement it'll show you how to do that so if you're interested in that make sure you subscribe stay tuned and i'll i'll notify everyone when when the course is available but i'm not going to rush it i'm only going to release it when i'm happy with its quality and that it you know fulfills on this kind of objective that i have for like providing a lot of value and it's going to be like a very practical course it's not just going to be focused on the woo new age stuff it's going to be focused on like very very practical stuff that's going to help you just to to get i wouldn't say the very basics but sort of like the intermediate basics because like the super super basic stuff you can get that elsewhere but like it'll show you how to get like a lot of like the intermediate basics down and then from that point on like a lot of stuff that i'll be teaching after that is just like very very uh deep profound existential stuff and so in this way we're going to kind of like bridge the gap but make sure before we get to like the mid basics get like the very low basics down like um [Music] it's almost like getting you know like a basic education you need a basic education before you can start to read advanced books and stuff like that in college like what i teach basically is like college level material stuff and i sort of expect that you did good in high school so make sure you go back and finish your high school classes all the stuff you missed in high school that you kind of were lazy about get that handled get your survival needs handled get your shelter your work your money this basic stuff get that handled the sooner you can get that handled the sooner you can move on to like the intermediate and advanced stuff that's where things get really interesting but again like like with much of life like before you can have your dessert you got to like eat your vegetables that's kind of how it has to work here right the dessert here is like the advanced enlightenment stuff that's like the dessert and the problem is that if all you eat is dessert with no vegetables you're gonna see how that's gonna backfire on you so just watch out for that trap and otherwise stay tuned i have a lot of exciting both advanced and practical topics coming over the next year i've planned out like over 30 different videos and topics that i'm going to try to make them more practical than they have been over the last couple of years so you guys are going to be interested in sticking around for those you